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It’s our human nature to cry, laugh, be moody and sad.

We can’t always be happy unless of course there comes a time when we can  walk straight to a drug store to buy medicines off the counter only to make us happy. But given the complexity of how things work between medicine manufactures, doctors and  insurance companies, it’s unlikely that will take place.

While there are many herbal medicines, there aren’t any for Happy Moods. Oh, please don’t tell me that St. Johns Wort or SAME-e and stuffs like that. It works only for a handful of people and it ain’t for HAPPINESS for all.

First, you would be telling me to define what I mean by Happiness. Right ? Happiness is a peace of mind, it’s an absolute control you have, you don’t blame yourself nor anyone, you are as happy as the 1 year old baby.

I’ve tried this and it seems to work, so why don’t I share with you my secrect receipe of being happy. Did you put butter on the pan yet ?

• First of all, consider that you are unique. There is nobody like you. Not a single person. Did you know that you could be someone else perhaps with a bigger nose or smaller eyes or your skin color would be different or perhaps you would 13 inches smaller or you would be born in a third world country . The probably of who you are is 1 in 1000000000000000 or something near to that. For further research, I suggest you google it to find out. Knowing how unique you are is a great feeling.
• When you are sad, think of all the people in the world. Do you have a meal to eat tonight ? You do. Do you know there are people who are starved to death. Do you know that rice crops have died due to climate change.
• Are you unhappy because you don’t have money ? Come on now. You don’t have money  ? It’s because you either didn’t work hard or you blow every penny you make. Saving never came to your brain. But don’t blame the past. Think of all the people who might not have what you have, even a few bucks. But would you feel sad again that every time you try to make happy, you need to think of underprivileged people. If that makes you sad, it’s the reality. What can you do ? If it makes you happy. Save some money and give to them when you have enough.
• Music is one of the best tool. MP3 players are cheap these days. Get one and get into the music. I have tried this and this works wonder. Yes, turn the volume all the way up. Get yourself higher somewhere in another world until you settle back to normal
• Routine Works can make feel sad. Spice it. Do it a bit differently. Ask yourself, how else can I do this ? For example, if you are a secretary and you boss gives you bunches of papers to type, why not type the last page first before the first. What the F*ck ? Monotonous has no rhythm.
• If you are allowed to listen to Radio, turn it on. Certain places allow this unless of course you in a operation theater.
• Watch some TVs you normally wouldn’t. It might do wonder.
• Play some games on video gaming system like XBOX 360. It will help you free your mind.
• Never Grow Up. I’ve told this to many people thousand times, and I’m a baby. Believe me. Have you see how innocent the smiles are from babies. It’s the best smile. It’s because, they are in the moment and they have nothing to worry about. So learn those two words “Be in the moment” and “worry” is only pulling you back. Forget it!
• Meditation – some of my friends think that I am praying even when I am looking at a picture without shutting my eyes. Meditation helps us empty our thoughts. There are significant research on the benefit of meditation. While methods might vary, they are one of the easiest thing to do.
• Keep a journal (if you like the old fashion way, notebook will be fine) or if you like Hi-tech, blogger.com or wordpress.com is my recommendation. Writing your daily activities and sharing will divert your thoughts that are making you sad.
• Money. Money. Money. You can have some, enough or not enough. For a moment, every single day, tell yourself, that you don’t need no money. Just do it. Or you could say, “I just want that much enough to pay bills” Thought of money itself can bring sadness in you specially when you have limited options to make them.
• Go online, make some friends. Internet is a great place to escape. For videos I would recommend youtube and for free online magazines, try spin.
• Learn Photography or Videography. Anyone can do this. Learning is easy. Put them up and see how comments flow. Youtube, Devianart and other Picasaweb are some cool places to test your skill. These days, anyone can afford a reasoable camera with a video recorder for less than $50.
• Make online friends. If you are sad that you don’t have real(good friends), try making friends online. Facebook is one heck of a place to start. The only thing you need to worry is when someone leaves you. Don’t take friends tooo deeply. They are just friends. Unless they were you classmates, you are just a friend. Just. Don’t cry if some one rejects you or does not respond.  There is a huge difference between Internet Friend and a Real Friend. If your real friends are nothing more than AS* W*ols, perhaps Internet friends are your real friends.
• Play some games. If you don’t have a PC. There are board games you can play. For PC, play games that help you learn or explore. There is no proof that playing a particular game will make you happy. Play a game that is fun and addictive. (I like sports game because they seem realistic and I was once a sportsmen) Another case ? If you PC can handle, I would recommend The Sims, your sadness will surely go away. And for all  those leg fans FIFA 10 and Hand fans, I would go for NFL 10
• Do social works – If have money to pay your bills and you are free, social works can uplift your moral, perhaps making a happier person. Would you like to leave some footprints on earth ? We know for sure, our foot prints won’t be be there on mars ?
• Hangout with friends. You can be from a good person to completely a different one based on the people you hangout with. No, don’t blame your friends, but blame the network you decide to join.
• Take a morning walk. If you are a night time person, convert that to day time person. It’s been said that morning walks help improve health; healthier you could mean more happiness.
• Karaoke, what a cool name. Not into it. You gonna love it. Get yourself one and sign along.  Music heals wounds. Sing like a rock star.

Well, who knows, when you are sad, may be the best in you will come out. One final tip ? Write a book.

Here are a few links to songs, videos that makes me happy. I hope you enjoy them as much as I .

Remember : As for me, “Life is an Experience”. Enjoy, Learn, Share, While we all can. Time EXPERIENCE many things at  one time or in long span ? I would pick the later. So be healthy, stay longer so you can EXPERIENCE MORE.

Here is my final video embed of the tonight.

Useful Resources:

• youtube.com/watch?v=Zx3m4e45bTo – What’s money ?
• This song made me smile.youtube.com/watch?v=FJfFZqTlWrQ
• You are lucky to be here. Wonderful music by UK band The Verve youtube.com/watch?v=qujfdzLJPyU Just see how lucky you are!
• Get up now!! When you weep you weep alone, when you laugh, the whole world laughs with you. youtube.com/watch?v=QkSbcit01Gc
• The other person doesn’t know how much you love ?
• This is your music. Listen and Cheer up! You can actually play  this
• one here… look below:
• Everything you need to know about Meditation
• I need help. I want to write my story/blog, here you go…blogspot.com || wordpress.com

Is someone not appreciating your love ? Here a video you might have already seen. It’s cool though. People are going crazy over there with video responses and comments. Let’s play again.

That’s it for now, just remember : I’m not a very happy person although I try my best to be happy. Among all the things I have tried as listed above, those that works well are Meditation and making my mind like a baby when I have to deal with ANGRY customers. Wish you could take back the words you speak? Thinking before speaking might also make you happy. Tell yourself, you are just another person who is here to experience the gift of life in bundle (sadness, happiness, pain, gain and a whole bunches of them) Sadness is no exception, wonder why ? Any inputs you can give to me, I would love it.

Now, let us challenge the SADNESS and use it to our advantage.

– Ruben
Life is not a piece of cake. Think of how many other people might not even have luxury that you do. Food that you are eating right now ? Others starving ?

Here is a cute video, I love it for the lyrics and all. I used to watch this time and again when I was back in Australia in 1987 and I still watch it very often. This has to be one my best musical video ever apart from many other Nepali songs of course. Could it because my life ain’t going the way I want it to go ? WTF, life is life. Who cares about someone’s life anyways ? Do you ?

Enjoy!